Gain Dating Confidence To Rock Your World by Joseph Clough
Dating confidence can be a massive concern for many men, especially with today’s society telling the man to act and react in a certain way towards women. It has led us to the fear of rejection or not being good enough. We have ultimately lost our true identity and male composure when pursing women.
• Your body cannot stop your body and/or voice from
shaking when approaching a woman.
• Feelings of intense anxiety before talking to a women
• Not knwoing what to say.
• Using horrific chat up lines – yes all of them!
• Limting beliefs such as ‘she’ll reject me’ ‘im not good enough’
• Avoiding apporaching women.
• Perspiring/sweating before or during speaking to a woman.
• Feeling you have to act, say and be a certain way.
But how can you change?
So how can you change your fears and doubts to excellent dating game.
Well first of all, it’s all about what’s happening inside of your mind. Many people tend to create images of all the things that could go wrong, having negative and doubting thoughts, which leads to the body to create all the symptoms of not approaching or dating – its time to get back the control.
You can and willl change, you can change by getting in touch with your unconscious mind using NLP (Neuro Lingusitic Programming) and Hypnosis. NLP (Neuro Lingusitic Programming) and Hypnosis is a gateway to the unconscious mind which runs the limiting thoughts, beliefs, feelings and behaviours. By using NLP (Neuro Lingusitic Programming) and Hypnosis you can get the unconscuous mind to realise that first of all dating or apporaching women is not something to fear and by haing the fear its actually not really helping, protecting or keeping you safe.
When the unconsious mind learns this, it has to then change – after all it is primarly here to protect you that’s why it runs the healing, the fight and flight response.
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Then using NLP (Neuro Lingusitic Programming) and Hypnosis you can get the unconscious mind to get take on a new way of acting and reacting that replaces the low self esteem. This is by taking on new empowering beliefs such as:
‘I don’t care if I am rejected, it happens
‘I enjoy approaching women’
‘I feel content in myself and i calm and cool at all times’
‘I am confident, authentic great guy’
Then to install new resources that serve you such as:
And finally through NLP (Neuro Lingusitic Programming) and Hypnosis to create new behaviours that support you, the way you act and react in all siutations toward women.
By doing the above through NLP (Neuro Lingusitic Programming) and Hypnosis, it causes your uncosnciosu mind that ran the fear or lack confidence when approaching or dating women to simply dissaperar in a short space of time by installing and running new beliefs, mindsets, feelings andnd behaviours.
Here are my FREE quick fire tips for Dating Confidence:
Visualize and mental rehearse yourself approaching women being charismatic and cocky and funny as if it was a real experience – feel the feelings of how good it would feel.
Don’t think: What if she rejects me? Instead ask
questions on how I can approach whilst being confident. This causes our mind to
search for solutions.
Use eye contact – not freaky stalker eyes, just direct eye contact.
Prepare a conversation opener such as ‘I can’t stay long I just need your opinion on………….. (Make it interesting i.e. ‘who lies more men or women?’ or ‘tie or no tie?’ Or ‘I need some female advice for my friend Jake’ This prevents panic—knowing your material well will really boost your confidence
When talking imagine projecting your voice over, talking
louder than usual (with out shouting!)
Approach a women or group at a slightly higher energy level.
If you make a mistake, they blow you out – who cares! It
doesn’t really matter, you will not die, and it’s a numbers game. Play the
numbers and you win the came.
And finally allow talking to women to become a fun process, a game, after all it truly is.
The biology part:
Specific symptoms of speech anxiety can be grouped into
three categories: physical, verbal, and non-verbal.
Physical symptoms result from the Autonomic Nervous System responding to the situation with a “fight or flight” reaction. These symptoms can include acute hearing, increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, dilated pupils, increased perspiration, increased oxygen intake, stiffening of neck/upper back muscles, and dry mouth.
The verbal and non-verbal symptoms include, but are not limited to a tense voice, a quivering voice, and repetition of “Umms” and “Ahhs” which tend to comfort anxious you when talking. One form of approach and talking anxiety is dysfunctional speech anxiety, in which the intensity of the “fight or flight” response prevents an individual from performing effectively.
But why would the body do this?
Well every behaviour we run (even your lack of confidence when apporaching or dating women) tries to help us, I know it sounds odd, as it may not seem that way. However the intention for why our body does is because its trying to help us.
Our body is specifaclly desinged to protect us, that’s why we feel the fight and flight response, anxiety or fear when speaking or apporaching a women. Our body has made a limiting decision to fear women. This can be for many reasons, usually because of a past signficant events where you have been rejected, or poor relationships in the past, which has created fear, anxiety and doubts in yourself.
The more we feel the fear or lack of confidence the more our mind and body gets acustomed to it, making it an engrained habit for your throughts, beliefs, and that way you act and react around women. Quite simply the more we have the horribale expereinces around women or the more we put off appoaroaching women our body then remembers those experiences for every new situation. So when you have to go to speak or apporach your body through the symptoms of fear tries to tell us to get out of the siutation or simply not do anything for the intention of protection.
So the lack of dating confidence, fears and axitys as horrible it is to have, our body is acatually running it for us for the intention of protection. But it doesn’t have to be that way, we can train your body to still have the protection whilst feeling calm, confident and strong whilst apporaching or speaking to anyone women
What if you become free a confident authetnic guy?
This is the important part, imagine being free of fears
and anxieties, imagine feeling calm, confident and a strong man. What would it
allow you to do? How would that new confidence and self believe allow you to
How would your career, relatinships and health be
Like everyone, you deserve to be a real man, to have personal power and control of your mind and body. By taking respoonsablity for your problem now, it means you have the abiltiy to change your mind and therefore your results!
Its all yours to discover.
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