Cause and Effect in NLP - Joseph Clough NLP Trainings
Many people in life play the blame game, ĎIts not my fault that I have a poor financial situation, unhealthy relationships, an unfulfilling career or my health is not up to scratchí.
Now I canít blame people for thinking like this because is the way we have been taught and in the short term it can be quite nice as it gives us the reasons why we havenít got our life in order. It lets us off the hook and directs that energy to some external person/situation/physical object rather than themselves. Iíve been there countless times.
Those reasons for why you may not have your life the way you want it are a just fundamentally excuses. I am sorry to say but reasons are just a form of excuse to why havenít got something, arenít they? Itís like living your life as an Effect due to external reasons, rather being at the Cause of your life.
If you keep on living life be at Effect you only continue to reaffirm that you have reasons/excuses for where you are, which means you stay where you are and expect more of the same to the point that you are resigned into that way of thinking. It narrows our choice and freedom. We need to turn that inside out.
However now imagine if we put ourselves steadily in the position of taking responsibility for our state of affairs. To realise that you can be at Cause and itís no one elseís fault. To really take responsibility for your past, your present and future, what does that do? How would that change the way we act in our life?
Well firstly it gives as the power back into our life to change our health, our relationships our career. Knowing that no-one gave us those limiting beliefs, those limiting decisions, poor health, attitudes. In some way we chose (probably at the unconscious level) to take them on and manifest them in our life. It can be hard to grasp, but by doing so we can undo all our conflicts.
If we continue to blame external things or people it causes us to feel bad, have resentment, hate and anger. But if we take responsibility for our situation it means, we can change it, if we donít though, we wonít. Even if you strongly feel it is some oneís fault, I suggest that you start thinking differently. Itís no longer someone elseís fault, itís longer out of your control.
We can no longer have any true excuses. When we get to that point of acceptance, we can take back the control, when this happens we have the power to change what we donít like, knowing we are the Cause of our life.
We all know that to every Cause or Action causes an effect or reaction of some kind. If Iím emotionally beating myself up day after day after day, it may cause the effect of depression.
If we are at Cause it gives the responsibility and ability to change to get results.
If we are living at the Effects of live, we have reasons (Excuses)
Cause > (greater than) Effect
Responsibility (Results) v Reasons (Excuses)
What side of the equation are you?
If we choose to move from the Effect (Reasons/Excuses) to the Cause (Taking responsibility) side of the equation it gives us the power to change any area of life.
To me that is empowerment. It puts you back in control of your destiny, it allows you to no longer accept anything less than the way you want it. You may be thinking ĎJoseph thatís all well and good in theory, but practise?í
Itís easier than you think, as you go through the days, weeks and years now realise that you are in control. Realise you are the creator of your life, this are your perceptions. Take that responsibility to know that itís not anyone elseís fault, not anyone elseís responsibility to change. Take on board the notion that you are in control of your mind, therefore your reality and your results.
Personally I take responsibility for everything around me in my life as I know when I do this; I also have the power to change it. I am open and flexible to change and the results rather being closed off from true options we have. If you start taking responsibility our mind finds the answers and ways around problems.
There are many studies that have conclusively shown that people who take responsibility and be at Cause for their own live and have a sense of being in control of their reality feel happier, healthier and ultimately more likely to achieve overall success.
This mindset has only been known by the successful few compared to the whole population.. The people who have mastered their life in all areas, they knew the secret of empowerment. I would say 95% of the population go around in their life oblivious to this knowledge and stuck blame game mindset of ĎIím not in control; I have no power to make changesí. Itís just the way we have been taught. Unfortunately they become slaves to what they perceive to be true. When I found this out it truly changed my life to the point that I had control over my destiny. It no longer depended on anyone or anything else. When I took that responsibility for my past my present and future I saw a new perception of boundless potential I had been deleting. What are you choosing to delete?
Who else might have of had choice and took responsibility for their life?
Do you think Rosa Parks in 1955 took the responsibility to not be made to stand on the bus? She said ĒI have learned over the years that when oneís mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fearĒ
How about Martin Luther King, he took a stand for what was right, not to create reasons for why he and fellow African Americans were 2nd class citizens. He went to be at Cause and took the responsibility
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Accredited and Certified NLP, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Coaching and Time Line Therapy (TM) in the UK - Joseph Clough NLP Trainings